For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Genesis 2: 24, NIV
Dear Savior, today, as every day, and perhaps with a greater urgency, we need to know for a certainty that it is Your voice we will hear, for only You have Words of wisdom, and eternal life. Amen
Today we are looking at one of the mysteries in God’s Word, the mystery of marriage. Why do I refer to it as a mystery? What else do you call two people, wth entirely different personalities, in some cases different backgrounds (educationally, financially, socially, at times ethnically), coming together in holy matrimony, and becoming one? We hear of couples being married for fifty, sixty, seventy years, and beyond; living happily in the sacred bond of marriage. Notice I did not say existing together, but living happily together. If that is not a mystery, then what is?
It is not easy, after you are grown, with your plans, and lifestyle all decided upon, to just blend into the plans and lifestyle of another. Of course this is usually by choice; and even so, it is not the easiest thing to do. But today, based upon the affirmation of our text, the unfailing Word of God, Jesus’ plan, when He instituted marriage was for this mystery of oneness to take place. So it is possible! Jesus said, “For I know the plans I have for you…plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” If, today, you were wondering if your marriage will be able to survive, you didn’t just happen to come across this website; I believe the Lord led you here to tell you that it is possible!
I am not talking about sick relationships that must be healed before they can be considered safe places. When a relationship has gone bad to the point where lives are in danger, both emotionally and physically, I believe that in the name of safety, both parties ought to seek help at a safe distance, before continuing the relationship. If it is just a rocky, uncomfortable situation, and no one is being harmed either physically, or emotionally, then in most cases, we can stay together, and give the Lord an opportunity to heal us and our relationships. Each person knows where he or she is, and what he or she needs to do.
Becoming one in the true sense of the word is a very healthy process. We retain our individualities, and therefore bring something new and exciting to the relationship: our uniqueness. Becoming one means we will be protective of each other, in every detail, “After all no one ever hated his [her] own body, but he [she] feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church- ” Being one includes helping each other to grow and attain to our full maturity (spiritually, intellectually, emotionally) and in any and every area where growth is expedient. Being one is based upon selfless, unconditional, loving! Sounds “too heavenly, to be any earthly good?” Not really, after all, our homes were intended to be “a little heaven on earth.”
If we will give Jesus our marriages, He can make something beautiful out of them. If all is well with you, give God thanks, and keep on growing in oneness, in the Lord. If you need help, ask the Lord to heal your marriage, or lead you to a good Christian counselor where you can receive the help you need, and deserve.
Giive God a chance to bring about His intended “mystery” in you, and be blessed!